Separation Anxiety
School/Kindy drop off... It's week 3 and the wheels are starting to fall off? Kids are tired. Reality is setting in. One child is upset and suddenly half the class doesn't want to say good-bye to mum! This is 100% normal and honestly, kinda expected at this time of term 1.We have some simple, but useful tips to help with drop off. Let us know what else seems to work for you and it might help others!
3 Simple Tips for an Easier Drop-Off at School or Daycare
What Is Separation Anxiety?
Separation anxiety is a normal stage of childhood development where a child feels upset or worried when separated from their parent or primary caregiver. It is most common between 8 months and 3 years, particularly when starting childcare, but school-aged children can also experience it during transitions like beginning school or returning after holidays. It may show up as tears, clinginess or reluctance at drop-off. While challenging, separation anxiety is usually a sign of a strong attachment, and with reassurance and consistent routines, children gradually build confidence in their learning environment.
Make good-byes quick but not rushed!
Why Separation Anxiety Happens at Daycare or School?
Separation anxiety at childcare often happens because young children are still developing their understanding of time, routine and object permanence — the idea that when you leave, you will return. Starting childcare is a big transition, with new environments, unfamiliar adults and different daily routines. Even school-aged children may feel unsettled during changes such as moving rooms, starting school or returning after holidays. These moments of uncertainty can heighten a child’s need for reassurance and connection. With consistent routines, supportive educators and positive experiences, most children gradually build trust and confidence in their childcare setting.
Practical strategies for handling separation anxiety
When to Speak to Your Child’s Educator
While some separation anxiety at childcare is completely normal, it’s important to speak with your child’s educator if distress continues for several weeks, becomes more intense, or starts affecting your child’s wellbeing at home. Ongoing sleep disruptions, changes in behaviour, or strong resistance to attending childcare may signal that your child needs additional support. Early childhood educators are experienced in guiding children through transitions and can work with you to develop consistent drop-off routines and reassurance strategies. Open communication between families and educators helps children feel secure, supported and confident in their childcare environment.
Set up a plan with support staff if needed!
What to do if Anxiety Persists?
While most children gradually adjust to childcare or school, some may continue to experience strong separation anxiety despite consistent routines and supportive strategies. If your child’s distress lasts more than a few weeks, worsens over time, or starts affecting their sleep, appetite, or behaviour at home, it’s important to take action.
Begin by having a detailed conversation with your child’s educator — they can observe your child during the day and suggest personalised strategies. You may also consider consulting a child health professional or psychologist for additional support. Persistent anxiety doesn’t mean your child is “overly sensitive”; it simply indicates they need extra reassurance and guidance to feel safe and confident in their learning environment.
